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Yup. It’s been 20 years. I started getting the Facebook messages about our 20 year reunion….really? Really. Is it possible that it’s actually been that long since I hair sprayed my bangs straight up with Aquanet and and thought wearing ties was cool? This October, my high school will be celebrating it’s class of 92 [high kick] graduating class. Without going into the details of my 10 year reunion, I just hope that this milestone is not celebrated with the same cliquie ways that the 10 year was.

There is always the dreaded fear among some of us of “how will I measure up to my classmates?” There are SO MANY different things that go through our minds [you know I'm talking about you!] “I need to lose weight!”, “what will they think about me when they find out I’m divorced?”, “I need to make a list of what my kids are successful at”, “How much does Botox cost?”, “Dammit I didn’t finish school!”, “What have I done in my life compared to everyone else?”, “I should bring pictures of my fabulous house”………..WHO CARES!!!!!! Only those with those same complexes are the ones that will be judging! I have found that in life, when a person feels inept with themselves about something, anything, they tend to displace that and find it in others to make themselves feel good. Our mothers taught us this survival instinct, right? “Don’t pay attention to them. They are just jealous”. Actually, a lot of times it’s true. I teach that to my own children. Unless you give someone a genuine reason to snicker about you, what worries should you have.

Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged,and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Matthew 7:1-3

Even after 20 years of what we hope or like to think of as “growing”, many of us still like to gab too much. Others feel as though they have so much to accomplish before the big weekend. I’ve been guilty of having some of these thoughts I admit. Yet others, are so content with what/who/where/when/and how they’ve lived their last 20 years. They are content with NOT having the huge house; not having straight “A” students (occasional B’s and maybe a C is ok); It’s ok to drive a used car with a cracked windshield and shop at Ross for Pete’s sake because you’re a smart shopper :) THOSE are the folks that I want to hang out with on that weekend. Just down to earth people that aren’t measuring me for what I have or haven’t accomplished in the last 20 years.